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Our Current Daily Schedule

People often ask if I can share our daily schedule and, while I love seeing posts about these types of things on other peoples’ blogs, I often feel uncomfortable sharing these types of things on my own blog. Why? I think it’s mostly because it feels really vulnerable, because I know some people will nitpick or criticize, and because other people will feel frustrated when they compare their life to mine.

At the same time, I don’t want to live in fear of the 3% and I know that these types of posts can be really inspirational to a lot of people. So, with this in mine, I decided that I’m just going to put our schedule out there in hopes that most people will find it helpful and inspirational.

Before I do that, though, I want to remind everyone — especially the young moms — that I am in a different season of life than you. My kids sleep through the night (though one has a really hard time getting to sleep at night!), they are very self-sufficient, and they are contributors to our home — able to help with cooking and cleaning and pick up and laundry.

So what I can accomplish in a day might look very different than what you accomplish in a day. And that is okay!

Also, I want to give the caveat that this schedule might change next month — or even next week! So don’t hold me to it… because I think good schedules are like good budgets: they are there to serve you and not the other way around!

We try to re-evaluate our daily schedule at least once a quarter — or sooner if the wheels are falling off! 🙂

Here’s what is working for us right now (remember that we rarely ever follow this perfectly, but this is a good idea of what a typical day looks like):

Our Current Daily Schedule

5:00 a.m. — M/W/F — Jesse & Kaitlynn get up and leave for the ice rink at 5:15 a.m. (Jesse then drops Kaitlynn off at school at 7:45 a.m. after her practice)

5:30 a.m. — Crystal gentle wake up (I used to feel like I had to read my Bible first thing in the mornings. But then I realized that it usually takes me 10-20 minutes to wake up in the mornings and so I was giving God my worst time, not my best time. So now, I wake up by scrolling through Facebook and Instagram for 5-10 minutes. Yup, I do. And it flies in the face of every single time management book and expert podcast, but I’ve found that it’s a great way for me to wake up and it’s something I look forward to and savor. Plus, I don’t struggle with getting sucked into the black hole of social media in the mornings since I have things to do and am usually raring to go as soon as I’ve fully woken up.)

5:45 a.m. — Crystal run (I usually answer Instagram comments while doing my warm-up walk and then listen to music and pray over my day and for my family members and other needs while I run.)

6:20 a.m. — Crystal shower & dressed (I lay my clothes out the night before so it makes it so easy to get dressed in something that makes me feel great!)

6:45 a.m. — Get kids up (if they aren’t already awake)… this often involves some coaxing for at least one or two of them and repeated encouragement to get up and get out of bed! 🙂 (The kids are responsible to take their baths or showers either at night or in the mornings every day, to get themselves ready, to get their lunches and backpacks ready, and they usually make their own breakfasts.)

6:55 a.m. — Crystal do her hair and makeup and make the bed/pick up our room (I like to listen to a podcast or music while doing this.)

7:10 a.m. — Crystal be available to the kids — helping them with their hair/making breakfast for them (if they are running behind or sort of dragging), or just being available to talk to them and encourage them (If they don’t need help, I’ll often post my Instagram post for the morning during this time.)

7:35 a.m. — Everyone leave for school — drop Silas off, drop Kathrynne off (Drop Kaitlynn off first on T/Th)

8:10 a.m. — Crystal and Jesse go out to coffee (We usually chat about our day or anything top of the mind, read our Bibles/current books we’re reading)

8:45 a.m. — Get home and Crystal get ready for Facebook Live (Jesse is usually working/answering emails/planning his day at this time.)

9:00 a.m. — Crystal do Facebook Live, YourBloggingMentor IG story, MSM IG story

9:45 a.m. — Time together (Jesse and I have this time in our day every day to hang out or do other things… ahem. We try to hang out together at night after the kids go to bed, too, but that doesn’t always happen because it’s too late, one of the kids is having trouble sleeping, or we’re just plain tired and ready for bed. Scheduling morning time to just be together has been so good for us and our marriage.) 

10:45 a.m. — Crystal make lunch and leave for work (I work at my employee’s house. Jesse usually works, goes to Crossfit, runs errands, helps with projects around the house, makes dinner in the crock-pot, and/or hangs out with friends during this time.)

2:40 p.m. — Crystal leave to pick up Silas, Kathrynne, and Kaitlynn

3:40 p.m. — Home/unwind time/snack time

4:00 p.m. — Kids do their chores and homework, Crystal and Jesse work on household projects and chores, make dinner (if it’s not already made and in the crock-pot)

Once all chores are done, if it’s not Tuesday or Thursday (when Silas and Kathrynne have Jiu Jitsu), then once chores and homework are done, the kids can watch a movie/show,work on projects or crafts, play with neighbors, or do whatever else they’d like to do (well, within reason!). Typically, Kathrynne and Kaitlynn need most all of this time for chores and homework. Silas doesn’t have much homework, so he’s usually done by 5 p.m. or earlier.If I get everything done before 6, then I will work on extra projects, hang out with the kids, or read.

6:00 p.m. — Dinner all ready (sides made, table set, phones put away, etc.)

6:30 p.m. — Dinner/family time/Bible time

7:30 p.m. — Kids ready for bed — lunches made, outfits out for the next day, teeth brushed

8:00 p.m. — Kids to bed (This is what we aim for, but we don’t often hit it — especially for Silas and Kathrynne who are the night owls at our house! Since they don’t have to get up as early as Kaitlynn, we let them read or work/play/talk quietly in their room for awhile since they share a room and Kaitlynn is now in what used to be my office.)

Once the kids are in bed, Jesse and I will usually make sure the house is in good order and then we’ll either watch a show or talk or read.

9:30 p.m. — We aim to be in bed by 9 – 9:30 p.m. It doesn’t always happen, but that’s what we shoot for!

So there you have it! A little peek into our ordinary every day lives!

Any questions? I’m happy to try to answer them!

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53 Comments

  • Rachael says:

    I love this – thank you for sharing. I’m actually in the process of outlining a similar type of schedule. I’m taking your “course” or…coaching right now and the morning routine is taking shape. I actually started a little before the launch last night. So am now trialing the morning routine and making a wishlist for the evening one. THANK you so much for the encouragement that I can actually change and don’t need to follow someone else’s system!!

  • Bethany says:

    Crystal, you crack me up. I mean, I’m sure nobody would deduce what “hanging out” might include if you hadn’t added that “ahem.” 😛😂

    • Bethany says:

      I was laughing at the same thing!!

    • Julie Smith says:

      I like to hang out with my husband in the late mornings too 😂😝

    • Jo says:

      It was just weird to know how to share that part of the schedule. I decided instead of beat around the bush, I’d just put it out there. Because it’s a big priority for us. 😉

      • Carol says:

        I can totally relate. We have teenagers who are up later than us some nights. Thank goodness hubby works from home so we can have time alone!

        Love the written out schedule. I just did something similar, which I’m testing out this week!

      • Beth says:

        That’s a good point, and actually (and the conversation it generated), is quite helpful to me. Even though we aren’t at a time in our lives where working from home is realistic, it helps to know that others are feeling like they have to (it’s okay to?) get creative with timing, etc. Thanks!

    • Trixie says:

      I’ve been a reader since you first started blogging at your other site and that line cracked me up more than any other you be ever written 😂But you’re right. It is important to a marriage.

    • Lisa M. says:

      I loved the “Ahem.” I am pretty sure my hubby wishes we had some Ahem time scheduled like that. 🙂

  • Lindsey S. says:

    I love seeing other people’s schedules! Thanks for sharing. When do you schedule “friend time” in? When do you chat with your folks or siblings or friends on the phone? Our schedule seems to change daily with things like Bible Studies, AWANA, Youth Group, church or co-op meetings, etc. Do these kinds of things affect your daily schedule, or do they seamlessly fit in due to rearranging your usual stuff?

    • Jo says:

      I have Discipleship Group every Wednesday morning (Wednesdays are my offline days, so I don’t work on those days) and then we often have Community Group on Sunday afternoons. I also typically have a coffee date with a friend on Wednesday at lunch or in the evening or on Saturday OR, we’ll have a family over or a get-together with another family on Friday or Saturday.

      We limit the kids’ evening activities because we find that it just wreaks havoc for us to have many weeknight activities. So Kathrynne has youth group on Wednesday night and then Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, and Sunday nights we are almost always home.

      I’m not a big phone person. I prefer text or email or face-to-face or I have a few people that I Marco Polo with. However, if I talk on the phone, it’s almost always when I’m cleaning or when I’m driving.

      • Beth says:

        The limiting evening activities is a tough one for us. My husband has several (valuable! important! generous!) volunteer activities that meet in the evenings and as my older son gets older, his activities seem to be increasingly in the evenings (for example, baseball). I find, like you, that it is stressful (i.e., it crowds out lingering family dinner and ideal bedtimes) to have too many weeknight activities, but then when I set these limits we cut out other things that we value. It’s a tough balance!

  • Rebecca says:

    Wow, this is something I’ve been wanting to ask you about for a while. I really appreciate that your so understanding of everyone being in a different season, but this is so motivating for me to tune up my schedule and strive to do better. What a blessing!

    Thanks for sharing!

  • Julia says:

    Hi. Great schedule. My question is how do you get up so early, work out, and have energy to make it through the day? ???

    • Jo says:

      I try to get at least 7.5 hours of good sleep every night, I eat good protein, I drink lots of water, I don’t eat much sugar or white flour, and I am naturally a high energy person. But the healthy lifestyle choices make a BIG difference for me in giving me more energy!

  • april says:

    Is this something you come up with as a family? Do you have it printed out somewhere? I’ve considered a printed schedule for our mornings to make the kids more responsible for their time instead of me reminding them of what they need to do. Wasn’t sure if this is something you post somewhere so that the kids can see it, too.

    • Jo says:

      Yes, it is something that Jesse and I worked on together and it’s something that has evolved over time and gets tweaked every quarter. I print it up and post it so that we can all refer to it.

  • says:

    You have such a detailed schedule. We only can control the evening schedule at this phase of our life and I think we are doing well. hopefully we will have better control when the kids are a little older

  • Jessie McQueary says:

    I’m in desperate need of coming up with a schedule for my family. We have never really had a schedule per say. We just go with the flow. This is not helpful and I need to change it. It’s just my son and I. Where do you start? I made a really detailed one and I failed epically. 😢 Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated! Love what you do in the morning to wake up. I always felt like I was a bad Christian because I wasn’t giving that time to the Lord, but I am the same way. Thanks for this glimpse into your schedule!

    • Jo says:

      I’d say to start really small with a very simple routine of just 2-3 things. Get some accountability for that (maybe a friend you text every morning?) and stick with it for 3 weeks. At the end of three weeks, tweak and consider adding a little bit more to it. Rinse and repeat. Pretty soon, you might be rocking a full-fledged schedule!

      • Cara says:

        When you say stick to it for 3 weeks do you mean that it’s hard to tell if it’s working other now or unless you try for that long. Because in the beginning when making any change it’s hard to know if it’s just hard to change or if it’s just not working??

        • Beth says:

          Our family has found that it really is hard to figure out if a change is working if we don’t do it for at least three weeks. This is especially true for anything involving our kids. I used to try something new with my oldest – I’d give it about a week and it “wouldn’t work.” Now I realize that for him it’s three weeks before I can say “this will PROBABLY work” and closer to six before I know for sure. He thrives on routine so having a schedule makes a huge positive difference for him but it also means he struggles with change – it takes him a while to get into a new routine.

  • says:

    Hi Crystal,
    I just have to say that I appreciated this post so much! Especially the part where you scroll through Facebook before getting out of bed each morning…I do that too!! It’s relaxing and enjoyable, yet it helps me wake up without any stress. Funny thing is, there’s this temptation for me to feel guilty about that, knowing that some people would say that’s not appropriate! Sheesh! Anyway, it was so refreshing to read your post and see that one of my favorite bloggers — YOU —-does the same thing! Thanks for always being real; love that about you! God bless!

  • says:

    this is encouraging as a mommy of two littles who are at a point of being needy (and often it’s ahed to remember that one day less than 5 years from now, they won’t need us as much). For now, I’m encouraged to love and savor the littleness and know at some point it will all change. One question I had was how you keep up with all the different school schedules/Teachers etc?

    • Jo says:

      Google calendar is my best friend! 🙂 I’m used to keeping up with LOTS of different projects and people that I’m managing for blogging work, so I’m just adding the additional school stuff to my Google Calendar system. It’s definitely more than when we had them all in the same school or homeschooled, but Google Calendar keeps me sane! 🙂

  • Jessica says:

    My husband and I both have time off on Monday’s and I too have found that scheduling special time during the day, when our daughter is at school and we aren’t dead tired, really helps. 😁

  • says:

    Sex should be part of everyone’s schedule! I’m glad you put that in there, because it’s important and helps others figure out how to get it in their schedule.

  • Jennifer says:

    I made the same realization about waking up slowly about a year ago. Why was I convinced I HAD to give God that first 20 minutes, when I couldn’t even remember it by mid-morning??? Much better to read and forget everything on instead, right?! Thanks for sharing!

  • DB says:

    Thanks for sharing this! I was just thinking last night about making a new schedule that will work better for me and my family. I was wondering…when do you grocery shop? And when/why did you make the switch from home schooling to public (or is it private?) school for your kids?

    Thanks!
    DB

  • says:

    Good Family schedule. Hope that I can apply this things to my family as well. Thanks for this great article.

  • Natalie Stachon says:

    This is extremely encouraging and helpful because it allows me to see that one can realistically enjoy a day full of productivity (work, household chores) as well as personal fulfillment (exercise, quiet time/devotional, special time with husband, family time). Thank you very, very much for sharing!

  • Sumayya says:

    Crystal, thank you so much for sharing this with us. It’s given me a lot to think about in regards to fixing our schedule.

  • says:

    Thank you so much for being open with your schedule!! I love seeing how people organize their days – it’s inspiring and extremely helpful 😊

  • Jen Lehr says:

    Thank you for sharing, Crystal! This was really helpful!

  • Tyla says:

    I’d like to put this out there for anyone who might have a good suggestion. I have been struggling with balancing my work schedule in my new food service job and getting time either alone with my husband or together with him and our child. I work aft/evenings, he works early morning/aft, so basically most days we get 5-20 min together to share a coffee somewhere and exchange our daughter. Sometimes it feels more like shared custody than family time. Plus we live with my in laws right now, which adds to the complication. Any suggestions? I’d especially love to hear from someone who was able to make a similar situation work.

    • Jo says:

      Do you both work 7 days or do you have any days off?

      • Tyla says:

        He works M-F and often Saturdays. I work everyday except Thursday, sometimes I get part of the weekend off, sometimes I don’t. Thursday night is for going to our place of worship.

        • Jo says:

          I would say to savor any Saturday you get together… and work toward the end of possibly having a work schedule eventually that is better for both of you. Sometimes, short-term non-ideal situations are just unavoidable. I am sure that it’s SO hard! Can you talk on the phone or text or leave notes for each other to help keep the romance alive while you’re apart? Look for any way to kindle those flames!

          • Tyla says:

            Yes. Whenever we get breaks we do talk and text. Sometimes I leave him notes. We had our 12 year anniversary a couple weeks ago and had a really great date night. I think you are wise to speak of it as a non ideal temporary situation. Our daughter will be in full day school next year and this Spring a family friend is moving to the area that might be able to help with child care. Maybe a change is just around the corner! I will definitely pray over it.

        • Jessica says:

          Can you alternate Thursdays with worship and marriage? Can you worship on different nights than your husband? He goes Sunday, you go another time you may have off? Or go to dinner before church? It may not be forever but it may be what you need to do now.

          • Tyla says:

            We have done that a couple times. Last week for a couple hours before our worship we got someone to babysit. We had dinner as a family first, dropped our daughter off and found some deals at CVS and did a LOT of talking. There has recently been a new opportunity on the table. It might be our ticket to some changes and we have been discussing it and keeping it in our prayers.

  • Bonnie says:

    Awesome! I am trying to work out non-paid and paid chores for my 10 and 5 yr old. I agree that homework and prepping for next day (making lunch, filling water bottles, setting out clothes) are boxes they must check before playing with friends and electronics. I am struggling to figure out what our non-paid and paid chores will be and what the requirement is to do them (by a certain time – like before dinner or things like that). I really see a need for my kids to become more responsible, but I also want to ensure they get their kid time.

  • says:

    I didn’t realize all of your kids have such different schedules from each other. How encouraging that you cater to all of their individual needs and interests. Also, the pics are adorable! They are getting so big!!!

    I, too, am a slow to wake up type of person. I spend 10 minutes on social media and it really helps me focus when I go downstairs to read the Bible. I’m more awake, and there is nothing to distract me since I put my phone away until after homeshooling lessons are done. Most of the time at least. 🙂

  • katie says:

    Did Jesse go back to work as a lawyer? I thought I read a while ago he was taking time off and staying home? Sorry if I’m confused on that one, but I thought you said he shut down his law firm?

  • says:

    It is amazing to see how much more you get done in a day than me ha ha… but also amazing to see where I’ll be someday!
    (I have four children and the oldest is four!) =]

  • Sallie says:

    It looks like you run for about 30 minutes a day right? My husband and I worked with the same nutritionist that you used. We found that the workouts he recommended took an hour to an hour and a half everyday. With 2 littles, one with a genetic deletion, I just don’t have that kind of time. Now that you have finished the program, what do you do for your workouts?

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