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Frugal Weirdos Unite

So, as I mentioned on Friday, I tend to be the kind of person who avoids spending money on myself. I have a few select things I splurge on, I love to buy things for other people, but when it comes to myself, I usually always talk myself out of it.

I’ll re-wear something over and over again until it has holes in it. I’ll make do with what I already have. Or, I’ll just find a way to do without.

But it’s rare that I go and spend money on myself — especially on the spur of the moment. However, after reading Love Does, I’ve been inspired to be a little more spontaneous.

Now remember, I’m the Type A gal who enjoys spontaneity only when it is carefully planned. For me to even be remotely spontaneous is a big deal. And it’s even a bigger deal when the spontaneity involves spending money, too.

So you can imagine Jesse’s surprise the other night when he walked in the door and I met him at the door beaming to tell him my surprise, “Honey, I bought something today. And it wasn’t something I needed and I didn’t even have it on my list.”

You should have seen his shocked expression. Like who are you and what have they done with my wife??

“Guess what it was?” I went on.

He had no idea — or maybe he was just still reeling from amazement at my wild side. 😉

I finally spilled the beans, “I bought a candle at Hobby Lobby!”

We both had a good laugh at me as I proceeded to tell him how I had stood there in the Hobby Lobby check out lane with my one item that I’d gone in to purchase and then I’d seen the fall candles on display. I love candles — especially fall candles — and they were on sale, too.

It was everything against my nature to even consider buying one when it wasn’t on the list. But I reminded myself that I had plenty of blow money and that it would make our house smell good. And I reminded myself of how I’ve been trying to not be so tight-fisted when it comes to occasionally spending money on little things that would make me happy.

After a lot of inner dialogue at the checkout lane, I finally talked myself into paying a whole $1.99 for that candle. Y’all I think I just might be getting a spontaneous streak or something. 😉

P.S. Please tell me I’m not the only one who agonizes over a $1.99 purchase that’s not on the list. I’ve always been like this and I think some of us might just be born Frugal Weirdos. And yes, the Spenders just don’t get us… but we sure help save them a lot of money! 🙂

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  • Kelly P says:

    I have been a member of both clubs at one time in my life and now I definitely lean more toward frugal. I’m *trying* to loosen up a bit and find a happy medium, but I’m a little afraid of reverting back to my spendthrift ways! I doubt that could happen, but I stay strict just in case 🙂

  • Evelyn says:

    I actually laughed out loud when I read this because I’m just like that myself! Several years ago I had a friend who was so exasperated with me because I had trouble buying even small things for myself that she ordered me to not come back to work from lunch unless I had bought myself something. I wandered through the store for an hour trying to NOT talk myself out of everything I liked. I finally bought something for a few dollars just so I could tell her I had done it. By the way, my husband doesn’t understand that either and has no trouble spending on himself spontaneously. He sure appreciates how far I can stretch the money though!

  • Karla D. says:

    I think this just shows that you are a really good steward of your family’s money-more people could take a lesson from you! 😉 I definitely splurge more often on little things for myself because I feel that life is short and enjoying your day-to-day and feeling special is important, not just paying bills. Not everything can be purchased with coupons or deals and if I’m in Marshall’s and I see a pretty notebook for $3, I’ll grab it.

    I go through a little ‘do I really need this?’ process a few mins before getting into the line to check out though. I ask myself if I really need it, if I can find it again later elsewhere when I have more fun money or if it’s so unique that I may not find it again for the great price it is. I always wind up putting something back and I remind myself that if I keep the receipt and get home and change my mind, I can always returns it. I put the item away with the receipt just in case I decide I need that money after all or don’t really need the item. That seems to work for me.

  • Andrea says:

    Oh my gosh! I was laughing when I read this post because I did the EXACT same thing tonight at Michael’s. I went in with my 40% off coupon to buy a pack of safety pins, and saw the Fall candles on sale. I stood there smelling them and debating about spending the money with the same diaglogue going through my head. I broke down and spent the money too. 🙂

  • Kim says:

    Amen to that sister! It sounded like you were inside my head ’cause that’s just how I think! So glad to know there are other people that feel and think like that too!

  • amanda says:

    Im so glad you posted this and now i dont feel like such an odd ball! I will have so much inner dialouge with myself that i get a headache!! I talk myself out of every purchase for myself and then I regret it later. Or if i happen to buy something for myself after agonizing over the decision then I regret spending money and guilt sets in. I have a hard time making decisions and I’m very frugal so its just a never ending thing. Its frustrating! Way to go on buying it and enjoying it!

  • says:

    I couldn’t help but laugh when you said you had splurged on a candle. This sounds exactly like something I would do! After all, they don’t call me Thrifty T for nothing. :O)

  • lucyt says:

    Sadly,I am so with you.

  • Crystal says:

    Please teach me to fret over a $1.99 purchase that isn’t on the list… I spent $100 off the list last night… grr…

  • Frugalista says:

    I used to be like that when my children were little. I promised myself that once our income improved, I would start buying things I really wanted to have. I recently bought a Coach bag I really wanted, but I bought the most inexpensive and practical bag I could find and I did not feel guilty (well, maybe just a tad).

  • Joyce says:

    I had a friend come over to paint. She used a container for paint that she found in my cupboard. It was part of a set of three with covers – it cost me six dollars. I had agonized over whether it was a reasonable purchase, whether I could get it priced cheaper if I waited, whether I would really use them etc. etc. It was very hard making that buy. Her comment “do you have any other cheap tupperware containers we can use for paint so we don’t have to clean up, we’ll just toss them” WHAT!

    • Grace Norcott says:

      I am the spender but my husband and I are taking Dave Ramsey’s course and I am hopeful. In fact I have learned a lot from my husband over the years and have come a long way. I have lost a lot of weight and encourage other women not to make food the only way they take care of themselves as is so common. If you do not take care of yourself you will have nothing left to give others. Spending without considering the consequences is not caring for yourself because you will eventually suffer or others will as a result of your decisions. But it is important for your children to see that you value yourself enough to take care of your physical and emotional needs because they will follow what you model. A joyful, confident woman who has her needs met brings joy to those whose lives she touches.

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